By Ellen Besso
"Our dreams can help us at this time more than ever. They are indicators of deep desires, of where we want to take our lives." quote by Ellen
It is time to visit my women's cavern. I haven't been there in a very long time. I carefully climb down through the jagged boulders and reach the wide, open area of my cavern. I notice the stone bleachers along one side, the stone walls & at one end, the altar. On the altar are flowers of all colours, candles & power objects. To one side are blankets of different colours. No one else is there right now.
I take my time choosing just the right coloured blanket for today...for the work I need to do. Red keeps coming into my mind, so I choose that. I wrap myself in the red blanket & make a hood with it to put over my head. I sit down cross-legged a distance from the altar. I wait...
As I sit there, more women gradually arrive and take seats on the stone benches. I understand that the stone 'bleachers' are there for the women who support me in my internal work. I see present day friends and also my ancestors. Auntie Helen, Nain, Grandma, Auntie Olwen are there. Susan Y., Susan K., Diane, Shahnaz, Darlene, Alisa, Kathy, Jeanne, Angel, Amy & Irene are my present day supporters. Blackie my dog is there as an honourary female.
The women come down from the benches & wrap themselves in blankets. We sit in a circle on the floor & begin the drumming & singing. My work is to bring forward that strong, powerful part of me that is so necessary in order for me to develop my practice and my life in the way that I want to...to develop myself in a totally empowered, authentic way.
The energy of the drumming & singing builds & ebbs of its own accord until the cavern echoes & vibrates with it. As the music slowly draws to a close, I move into the centre of the circle. One by one, each woman comes forward & gives me a gift...a small object or some inspiring words written on pieces of paper. These gifts are tokens that signify their support of me, & symbols that they believe represent the new life I am giving birth to. After the exchange we hold hands & sing together before sharing tea & slowly climbing back up, out of the cavern.
My women's cavern is from a dream I had several years ago when I was working with Judith Duerk, a Jungian therapist. Judith felt that the cavern room is my unconscious.
Copyright Ellen Besso 2007
Through her 'Odyssey of Change' coaching program, Ellen Besso offers Midlife Women the opportunity to navigate the midlife maze and find joy & fullness in their lives.
Personal action plans include strengthening the body-mind connection; releasing beliefs that limit growth; & specific actions to move you forward into your ideal life.
Ellen is uniquely qualified to be your guide because she has personally journeyed through perimenopause and into an inspired life as a menopausal crone! Her professional credentials include certification as a Martha Beck Coach and an M.A. in Counselling from City University.
To find out more about Ellen's work and read articles written by her contact:
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Saturday, February 23, 2008
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Why Women With Curves Are Fabulous
By Joanne Marston
Are you really sexier when your chest is flat, your hips do not exist and your shoulders stick out? Are you more beautiful when you are pale and your face is sunken? Are you a role model if teenage girls worldwide starve themselves to be as thin as you?
The answer to all the above questions is no!
So why is it we are obsessed about our weight? Is it because we are brainwashed into thinking thin is in or do clothes really look better when they hang off you? I think everybody will agree it is not the second.
What puzzles me as strange is the bikini clad top shelf magazines for men never ever feature skinny girls. They always have a bust, toned stomach and a rounded butt. Now if these are aimed at men and sold as their 'ultimate sexual fantasy' then surely women worldwide need to wake up and see that men actually prefer girls with some real curves!
When you actually read the polls carried out in womens magazines about who has the best body in Hollywood, Showbiz etc its always the likes of Marilyn Monroe, Catherine Zeta Jones and Jennifer Lopez.
So to recap. Men prefer to look at beautiful women with curves. Women admire beautiful women with curves and class these as perfect bodies. Yet why do we still have an image in our heads that we need to look like Victoria Beckham or Nicole Richie when all the evidence is pointing against it?
Women worldwide need to start listening to the facts and putting their health and future plans before the desire to have a shrinking waist. Im 110% certain that their are plenty of people suffering from incurable illnesses who would give anything not to loose weight at such a drastic rate. You only get one body and you are only here for one life so enjoy it.
For great ladies health and fashion advice visit http://www.ladies8.com
For fab deals on designer bags and sunglasses visit http://www.designerdirect8.com
For some fantastic deals on beauty and fashion visit http://www.lookinggood8.com
Are you really sexier when your chest is flat, your hips do not exist and your shoulders stick out? Are you more beautiful when you are pale and your face is sunken? Are you a role model if teenage girls worldwide starve themselves to be as thin as you?
The answer to all the above questions is no!
So why is it we are obsessed about our weight? Is it because we are brainwashed into thinking thin is in or do clothes really look better when they hang off you? I think everybody will agree it is not the second.
What puzzles me as strange is the bikini clad top shelf magazines for men never ever feature skinny girls. They always have a bust, toned stomach and a rounded butt. Now if these are aimed at men and sold as their 'ultimate sexual fantasy' then surely women worldwide need to wake up and see that men actually prefer girls with some real curves!
When you actually read the polls carried out in womens magazines about who has the best body in Hollywood, Showbiz etc its always the likes of Marilyn Monroe, Catherine Zeta Jones and Jennifer Lopez.
So to recap. Men prefer to look at beautiful women with curves. Women admire beautiful women with curves and class these as perfect bodies. Yet why do we still have an image in our heads that we need to look like Victoria Beckham or Nicole Richie when all the evidence is pointing against it?
Women worldwide need to start listening to the facts and putting their health and future plans before the desire to have a shrinking waist. Im 110% certain that their are plenty of people suffering from incurable illnesses who would give anything not to loose weight at such a drastic rate. You only get one body and you are only here for one life so enjoy it.
For great ladies health and fashion advice visit http://www.ladies8.com
For fab deals on designer bags and sunglasses visit http://www.designerdirect8.com
For some fantastic deals on beauty and fashion visit http://www.lookinggood8.com
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Evening Shawls - Your Fashion Emergency Insurance
By Meryl Rougeaux
Most of us have run into a fashion emergency at one time or another. You know the type-you receive an invitation to a formal dinner party that's two weeks away. There you stand, scanning your memory for something, anything that might be dangling in the dark recesses of your closet. There's always that standard black dress that has kept the back of your closet company for the past three years; the one that always serves as backup in these fashionably desperate situations. But, it's late summer and black is boring. Bright colors are a natural, necessary complement to the cheerful evening ahead. Thankfully, this is where the most versatile accessory comes in to save your day-evening shawls!
From what you can remember, that little black dress has a gorgeous scooped back and a not-so humble front cut. The style will surely create a few admirers; but it won't be practical on a cool and breezy summer evening. In a pinch, that cream-colored cardigan you wore last winter could be tossed over the dress for added warmth. But, do you really want to cover that little black number up with anything that could be suspected of being a cold-weather emergency blanket?
It's time to splurge. Go to Fashion Scarvesand Shawls online, and discover what beckons for your immediate attention? Some of the most gorgeous colors tempt you. You've discovered a true fashion playground! You have choices upon choices, each more tempting than the other.
Which color will go best with your features, your skin tone, and your personality? Maybe golden hues for a sun-kissed look or, perhaps red tones to create a more passionate effect. Jazzing up the black dress will be easy with all the pattern choices lying before you. Flowing from the pages are pashmina, silk and cashmere shawls with multihued glitz, eclectic block prints, and elegant embroidered designs. All attract a favorable harmony with your spirit.
It's time to buy. You've flipped through enough fashion magazines to know the perfect color and the most flattering design. With impulse you click "the add to cart" button for your new evening shawls and take ownership over it. This finely woven piece of art is light enough to flow and yet strong enough to protect your skin from any evening chill. You will be elegant and warm in your new wrap!
With this new brilliant fashion companion in hand, you are safe to drag that dress out from the deep abyss of countless other lonely clothes hanging precariously on the closet rack with it, feeling confident that you will look fabulously chic. As you stare at your reflection in the mirror right before slipping out the door, you are thrilled with your beautiful evening shawls. Your fashion emergency has just been solved. Regardless of its age, however timeless that may be, that little black dress with the slinky back and scoop neck-line has renewed life when paired up with the most perfect fashion companion of all times! New evening shawls in different colors and textures.
Meryl Rougeaux has been in the fashion industry for many years. She know what looks good, is in style at reasonable prices. She sells all kinds of evening shawls. Visit her top ranked online store at: http://www.fashionscarvesandshawls.com.
Most of us have run into a fashion emergency at one time or another. You know the type-you receive an invitation to a formal dinner party that's two weeks away. There you stand, scanning your memory for something, anything that might be dangling in the dark recesses of your closet. There's always that standard black dress that has kept the back of your closet company for the past three years; the one that always serves as backup in these fashionably desperate situations. But, it's late summer and black is boring. Bright colors are a natural, necessary complement to the cheerful evening ahead. Thankfully, this is where the most versatile accessory comes in to save your day-evening shawls!
From what you can remember, that little black dress has a gorgeous scooped back and a not-so humble front cut. The style will surely create a few admirers; but it won't be practical on a cool and breezy summer evening. In a pinch, that cream-colored cardigan you wore last winter could be tossed over the dress for added warmth. But, do you really want to cover that little black number up with anything that could be suspected of being a cold-weather emergency blanket?
It's time to splurge. Go to Fashion Scarvesand Shawls online, and discover what beckons for your immediate attention? Some of the most gorgeous colors tempt you. You've discovered a true fashion playground! You have choices upon choices, each more tempting than the other.
Which color will go best with your features, your skin tone, and your personality? Maybe golden hues for a sun-kissed look or, perhaps red tones to create a more passionate effect. Jazzing up the black dress will be easy with all the pattern choices lying before you. Flowing from the pages are pashmina, silk and cashmere shawls with multihued glitz, eclectic block prints, and elegant embroidered designs. All attract a favorable harmony with your spirit.
It's time to buy. You've flipped through enough fashion magazines to know the perfect color and the most flattering design. With impulse you click "the add to cart" button for your new evening shawls and take ownership over it. This finely woven piece of art is light enough to flow and yet strong enough to protect your skin from any evening chill. You will be elegant and warm in your new wrap!
With this new brilliant fashion companion in hand, you are safe to drag that dress out from the deep abyss of countless other lonely clothes hanging precariously on the closet rack with it, feeling confident that you will look fabulously chic. As you stare at your reflection in the mirror right before slipping out the door, you are thrilled with your beautiful evening shawls. Your fashion emergency has just been solved. Regardless of its age, however timeless that may be, that little black dress with the slinky back and scoop neck-line has renewed life when paired up with the most perfect fashion companion of all times! New evening shawls in different colors and textures.
Meryl Rougeaux has been in the fashion industry for many years. She know what looks good, is in style at reasonable prices. She sells all kinds of evening shawls. Visit her top ranked online store at: http://www.fashionscarvesandshawls.com.
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